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Disguising myself as pro-women when I really hated us on the inside

By Ayo Ogunseinde

Recently I went for dinner with a friend of mine, Jeannette. When we meet, we sit and discuss really stupid things and never really talk about the world — we’re just one of those friends that meet to escape our realities.

For a laugh, I was joking about a recent weed-run that I made. I was texting Sam, the person I was meeting and for some reason, I just had the image that Sam was a man. Much to my surprise, Sam was a woman. I joked with Jeannette wondering if that was my internalised misogyny taking part in being…

I May Destroy You is honest, raw and pure…everything the academy doesn’t understand.

Michaela Coel for I May Destroy You

Logging onto Twitter this morning, one thing was for sure that everyone was talking about the Golden Globes nominations. More so that Michaela Coel was snubbed for her series I May Destroy You. In fact, fans are furious that Coel was completely ignored while Emily In Paris received two nominations.

Even though Twitter may not be the best place for research, it’s definitely the place where you’re able to get an insight into why people feel the way they feel. It comes to no surprise to any of us that the academy is racist, they have been for a long…

The press and mental health don’t go hand in hand and that’s not her problem

Naomi Osaka at the French Open via The Guardian

Naomi Osaka has made a name for herself in the tennis world and as an athlete. Only 23-years-old and has already claimed four grand slam titles and has even beaten out players such as Serena Williams herself who has made her own records.

The transition between Williams and Osaka was one that everyone saw coming. Even though Williams’ name will live on for a long time, Osaka is here to show the world that she’s a force to be reckoned with — and she really has.

During the US Open 2020, she graced the courts every day wearing face masks…

A look into the famous relationship of Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker

Travis Barker and Kourtney Kardashian via ELLE

I’m such a reality-TV junkie that it’s almost an addiction. I can sit and watch different types of reality TV all day. Whether it’s a competition or just watching women sit around and bitch all day, there’s something about reality TV that I love. However, I’m not one to get heavily invested in these people so it was a wonder how I got invested in the relationship of the oldest of the Kardashian kids and the former Blink 182 drummer.

I’ve watched Keeping Up With The Kardashians for as long as I can remember and watched Kourtney Kardashian 10-year relationship…

Time flies when you’re writing stuff

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How weird is it that it’s been a whole year! Throughout the end of 2019 until now has pretty much meshed itself into a time warp. The days passed so quickly that when I looked at the date, a whole year has passed since I started writing here on Medium.

I’m sure everyone’s asked themselves the question of why did we start writing, whether it’s here on Medium or elsewhere, but it’s always why and that’s the question I asked myself as I looked through the pieces I’ve published. Let me tell you, it’s not been an easy ride. There’ve…

I’ve stopped wearing bras and I don’t care about comments or looks anymore

Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash

When I was in university, I decided to stop wearing bras for the sake of comfort. I would go out to wherever I wanted to go without a bra. My girl-friends would tell me, but your boobs will sag! and men would stare at me as if I were a pot roast. It taught me 2 things:

  1. Women continue to live in discomfort for the sake of aesthetic beauty
  2. Men have spent centuries sexualising women that wearing a bra has become my problem.

Bras have been around for over 1,500 years and during each era, it was designed and styled…

There’s no such thing as too old to learn or too old to be curious

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Since I was a child, I was constantly surrounded by children. Growing up in a big family, that was my biggest blessing to be around children and I loved it too. Children are the most curious beings around, especially when they get to the age of exploring new things around them. From flowers to bees and watching worms in the ground or ants carrying leaves and twigs into their anthill.

The first time I explained to my baby cousin how caterpillars turned into butterflies, her eyes lit up. I showed her an illustrated video explaining its life cycle and she…

Maybe it’s time to look at self-healing first

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It’s been a rude awakening in the past two years when it comes to self-care. Most of the self-care tips we see online are targeted at a specific demographic. There are certain aspects of our lives that we can’t move an inch for and whether that’s our careers or family, it makes it difficult.

But I’ve learnt a lot in just dealing with my own journey away from the noise of everyone else because like everything in life, what works for you might not work for me. We just want it to work because figuring life out alone is scary.

Decency and respect…it’s that simple.

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I had a comment on one of my articles that got my head turning. It was a comment against a phrase that I had said about the MeToo movement and how it gave men the space to take accountability for their actions. This author said that it was a ridiculous statement because men have always had that space — and she’s completely right.

For some context, that particular piece was in regards to the behaviour of children and how it could affect change when they grow into adults. This includes consent and harassment, particularly, in the workplace.

Since the rise…

How karmic justice can be a wakeup call to the world.

Growing up without the internet on my phone was the biggest blessing I’ve come to realise. It’s the one aspect of my life that I’ve overlooked multiple times, not because I’m ungrateful but due to its evolution over the past two decades.

My baby cousin, who’s only 11, has grown up with an iPad in her hands and YouTube at her reach. I’ve personally seen how it could affect the growth of a toddler. Not only that, but social media users tend to choose violence every day in the comments section no matter the content.

Even the comments in certain…

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